Are your friends sabotaging your abundance?

Today, we’re continuing our series on overcoming a scarcity mentality.

Just to recap, a scarcity mentality is a type of thinking where you believe that resources are limited (especially when it comes to money), that good things are hard to come by, and that success is something that happens to other people but never to you.

It sounds depressing when described like that, doesn’t it? And yet so many people fall into the trap of a scarcity mindset every day and never find their way out.

But if you have big dreams and you want to achieve them, you can’t afford to be held back by a scarcity mentality. I’m on track to make 6 figures in my business this year, and many of the people I coach in building wealth through wellness are on track to achieve similar financial career goals in their own lives. That said, one of the biggest topics that I’m constantly coaching on revolves around thinking abundantly.

When you think abundantly, doors of opportunity are always opening for you.

Because you believe in the abundance of resources surrounding you, new connections and opportunities and advantages are always showing up. That’s the power of positive thinking.



For the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing different strategies you can use in order to cultivate an abundance mentality and reprogram your mind so that you feel empowered, inspired, and encouraged with an ‘anything is possible’ mindset.

Last time we talked about the power of gratitude.

Today, I want to talk about the importance of monitoring what you take in.

Whether it’s from the books and blogs you read, the music you listen to, the TV programs and YouTube videos you watch, or even just the conversations you have with your friends and loved ones, you’re constantly taking in ideas.

We’ll talk more about content like TV and blogs next time, but today, let’s focus on the company you keep and the types of conversations you have.



You’ve probably heard it said before that you’re the sum total of the five people you spend the most time with.

If that’s true, then think about the five people to whom you devote the majority of your time. What’s their mindset like? Are they positive people? Do they see the glass as half-full? Do they see opportunity everywhere? Or do they constantly focus on the negative? Is there always a complaint on their lips? Are they stagnant when it comes to their dreams because they refuse to see a way to move forward?

If those latter sentences describe the company you keep, it’s time to replace the scarcity vibe that you’re taking in from such individuals. Believe it or not, these sentiments they’re exuding can have a toxic effect on you, causing you to be a chronic complainer as well, and when all you do is complain all day every day, you actually close yourself off to good things happening, almost like you’re unplugging yourself from opportunities.

That’s why you have to be selective when it comes to the people you hang out with. Surround yourself with people who are positive and are working toward their dreams, because they’ll motivate you to up-level yourself.

Second, be happy for the success of your friends, family, and co-workers instead of envying them or comparing yourself to them. Remember: there’s more than enough to go around. You don’t have to feel like you’re constantly competing with others.

Finally, be mindful of the way you talk.

Trent Hamm over at The Simple Dollar blog says this:

Rather than talking about the things you don’t have, try to engage in conversations with friends and family about the multitude of things that you do have. Ask your friends about the things that have gone well for them in the last week. Focus on the big things they’re working on. Don’t be afraid to share the same things about yourself. Talk about personal achievements and personal successes and personal experiences and leave talk about the things you don’t have and the things you’ll never achieve out of the conversation.”



So your challenge until next time is to do an assessment of the company you currently keep. If you already have positive, inspiring people in your life, then work at making them even more positive. If there are any deficits in your relationships, start trying to move your conversations to a higher level by focusing on abundance and your goals.